Letter to a loved one
Writing a letter can be a good way to start a conversation with a friend or family member about their drinking or drug use.
Here's a simple template to help you organise your thoughts.
Reassure the person how much you care.
For example: I care about you and our relationship very much.
Explain how you feel using “I feel…” statements.
For example: I feel sad and lonely when you pass out on the sofa every night.
Or: When you go out to score I feel worried about your safety and our family’s safety.
Explain what you would like to see happen
For example: I’d really like you to get some support to cut down your drinking.
Or: I want us to talk openly and honestly about your drug use.
Tell them why this is important
For example: I love you and want us to start enjoying each other’s company again.
Or: I need to know that you and our family are safe during lockdown.
Suggest how you can take this forward
For example: Can we agree a time to sit down and talk about this tomorrow?